What’s there to know about me?

I love to help people. I always have. 

I haven’t always helped myself, though. Despite knowing deep down that I’m intelligent, hardworking, and accomplished—for most of my life, I never felt “enough”. In fact, this “not enoughness” often was the driver behind my work ethic and achievements for as long as I can remember. I felt this constant urge to prove myself…over and over and over again.

For years, I bought into the “supposed to…” or “should…” mentality.

I didn’t want to fail. And so…I tried.

I did it all.

And in many ways, I succeeded—in most except those that mattered.

I became angry. At first, I didn’t have the words for why. I just knew that I was. In fact, that’s how I first entered therapy—late one night while working late, I had had enough and Googled “anger management”, emailing who then became my first therapist for my remaining three years in NYC.

My self-care and well-being journey has taken me to a better place. I’ve nurtured it over the years, first through 20+ years of yoga practice, then with almost 10 years in therapy, most recently in the last 2 years via coaching. It’s been the most valuable (and hardest) work in my life…and I’m convinced when I look back that it will be the bearer of my greatest accomplishments. 

Does this sound familiar?

I realized I wasn’t fulfilled and was acting out my frustration.

I wish I could say I took action on my own. But I didn’t. I waited for the situation, context, and circumstances to turn me upside down before I finally was forced into motion.

I knew I was courageous. I was just stuck! And when I attempted action, I found myself in a swirl. All of this was conditioning picked up along the journey of life; all of it helped construct the identity that I so tightly held onto (those “supposed to…”s or “shoulds…”). 

It’s been my journey over the years. My building a relationship with myself, this journey of self-help, has taken me to a better place.